“He’s my best friend and you’re either OK with that or you’re not.”

“I love him, but I’m not in love with him.”

“We have such a long history, there is no separating us, he will be in my life forever.”

Any of these sound familiar?

It’s in the back of your mind and you just can’t seem to shake it loose.  It’s not as if you’re talking to any of your ex-girlfriends anymore.  Every girl that has been in your past, has quietly bowed out with her time.  There are no phone calls, there are no text messages, and there surely aren’t any thoughts that pass through your head which incline you to reach out to them.

Her situation is quite the opposite.

The ex she dated for a number of years is still prevalent in her mind.  Like the bothersome canker sore, ‘never’ in your book would be the most convenient time for him to come around.  He’s the guy she goes to for advice, so the question always lies, is he for you?  Or against you?  Should you even care?   Should you give her an ultimatum?

Not if you want to be the guy she goes home with at the end of the night.

The best friend ‘ex’ can be very annoying and could spark questions of trust in your mind.  Squash these fears quickly, for you’re only heading down a path that will lead you home empty handed.  A relationship is built on trust, and you need to ante up if you plan on playing the table.

Even if she is talking to him, take a step back and look at the whole situation.  At the end of the night, in whose bed is she sleeping?  Realize that she is now with you, and her past is nothing you can change, nor control.

Don’t try to be his replacement, just let the relationship grow naturally and eventually you’ll be the confidant and white knight all rolled into one.  That, and you won’t look like a control freak who is trying to run her life.

Have confidence in yourself and your relationship, it’s what she’s looking for in a guy who is Mr. Right.