I wrote a guest post for a great blog called Sex, Lies, and dating in the City by Simone Grant (check it out, it’s very well done).  The story was about how you can have blinders in a relationship.  Here it is:

To this day I still can’t figure out what it is about being infatuated with someone that allows one to become so oblivious to seeing red flags.  I’ve personally always lived my dating life to a three red flag system.  It normally never fails me: three flags and you’re out.

Some of my previous red flags have included a girl handing me a toothbrush the next morning (first night together) saying “I always have a spare toothbrush for my overnight guests.”  Really?  When did I check into a hotel?  To a girl who spoke the entire time during a date and allowed enough gap in the conversation for three words:  “Hi.” and “Check please.”.

This one girl in particular that I dated, Sarah, was my devil in a red dress. Despite the abundance of flags thrown, I wore my blinders on snugly and marched forward. (more…)