Your apartment has become a revolving door. Like the office buildings in the Loop, you’re beginning to check them in at the front counter. Fill out your name, who you’re here to see, and the time you arrived. Here’s your visitor pass with a crappy photo of yourself and please… wear it proudly for all to see.
Finding potential love interests tend to come in waves. Both sexes have an extraordinary sense of hunting the other when they’re taken. Call it dumb luck, a hormonal hurricane, or simply confidence.
So what are you to do when you’re dating a few different people at the same time?
At the beginning, your confidence is riding high. You like all of them, and you’re not sure which to cut. So you continue to juggle all of them throughout your week. Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday… the days are filling up quickly, and the pressure is increasing due to you keeping them all a secret.
Unlike The Bachelor, you aren’t required to eliminate them each week… but it may be a good idea.
Be wary on the extent of how far you go with each of them. You don’t want to be the town bicycle that’s sleeping with three people at once. The line of discretion enters once you have slept with someone. Other than that, if you are just hanging out and dating, make sure all parties know you’re not in for a serious relationship.
Being honest, with yourself and others, is the key in this situation. With others, make sure they know you’re not tied down at the moment. And if things get too far, make sure you either cut the others, or let them know that you’re seeing other people.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with playing the field, it’s best to evaluate and eliminate. Figure out quickly and use your focus on one person. Talking to multiple people is a great way to figure out what you like and what you don’t like. Ride that wave… just make sure you pack that protection. Sun tan lotion is always a must!