While not a terrible idea, buying drinks for girls isn’t the most inventive or memorable way to introduce yourself to a girl.
Here’s the part that threw me off my game. The past few weeks while I’ve been out, I’ve had two girls walk up to me and say “Want to buy me a drink?”. Personally, the first thought that goes through my head is “Are you serious? Get lost lady.” Do guys actually fall for this? No matter how attractive or unattractive the girl is in this situation, I find it to be completely obnoxious and she’s thrown all credibility out of the window faster than a starving fat kid devouring chocolate cake.
If I were going to buy a girl a drink, it would be after we’d been talking for awhile and there is obvious chemistry or solid conversation.
Ladies, do you actually see any success with this? Or are these ladies just crazy?
Before you hop on that horse and gallop out into the sunset with your damsel, there will be a few key plays that you’ll need to be aware of that can greatly shift her perception of you. One of these plays is early on is the first group hang out session: her group or yours.
Which should you do? What’s the better move? Did you have to eat chili for lunch? All valid questions… let’s take a closer peek.
When I think of museums, one of the first things that comes to mind is this pleasant scene from one of the greats… Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.
We could all use one of these days every now and then. While that movie has plenty of date ideas scattered throughout (ball games, obnoxiously fancy restaurants, and doing a rendition of Danke Schoen on a float), the countless museums around Chicago are all possible date locale’s for that first time encounter.
“He’s my best friend and you’re either OK with that or you’re not.”
“I love him, but I’m not in love with him.”
“We have such a long history, there is no separating us, he will be in my life forever.”
Any of these sound familiar?
It’s in the back of your mind and you just can’t seem to shake it loose. It’s not as if you’re talking to any of your ex-girlfriends anymore. Every girl that has been in your past, has quietly bowed out with her time. There are no phone calls, there are no text messages, and there surely aren’t any thoughts that pass through your head which incline you to reach out to them.
The first few times you hang out with someone, the air is filled with ‘getting to know you’ moments. “You love Wilco too!? I have their entire discography!”, “You have two brothers and a sister? That’s crazy, I have two sisters and a brother! We’re a match made in heaven!”.
Before you know it, you’re being asked to hold their nephew’s legs at the Bris, or you’re hauled off to church in order to absolve your sins.
There is nothing wrong with following your faith if it makes you happy. But what’s the path to righteousness if you’re not religious and the person you start dating is their respective religions favorite customer? (more…)
Things are on the up and up. You’re on a steady once a week hang out, frequent phone calls, and the text messages are beginning to get the everyday vibe. Just when you think things are running smooth… Bam! It hits you like that surprise bar tab you pull out of your pocket the next morning that rings more than just a couple digits. Just my luck!!
A birthday.
If only it were back in the good old days. Gather all your friends for cake and ice cream, smack around a pinata filled with candy, and play some pin the tail on the donkey. Even if you pinned that elusive donkey’s head, you still go home at the end of the day satisfied and smiling.
Now, its a delicate game of thin ice. Too many marbles, and the house comes falling down. Too few, and she’ll wonder if you’re even interested in playing the game. (more…)
Take a deep breath and calm yourself. Here’s a shot of morphine… feel a little better? So that crazy ex of yours is hanging outside your window with binoculars. From the 14 text messages an hour, 2AM pop-ins at your apartment, and that sudden spike in searches on the internet for your name, you’re tempted to quarantine yourself from society.
Even the city traffic camera’s are beginning to look suspicious… what was that flash!? Was that a ticket or just the next glamour shot for their shrine? (more…)
While not a terrible idea, buying drinks for girls isn’t the most inventive or memorable way to introduce yourself to a girl.
“He’s my best friend and you’re either OK with that or you’re not.”
The first few times you hang out with someone, the air is filled with ‘getting to know you’ moments. “You love Wilco too!? I have their entire discography!”, “You have two brothers and a sister? That’s crazy, I have two sisters and a brother! We’re a match made in heaven!”.
Things are on the up and up. You’re on a steady once a week hang out, frequent phone calls, and the text messages are beginning to get the everyday vibe. Just when you think things are running smooth… Bam! It hits you like that surprise bar tab you pull out of your pocket the next morning that rings more than just a couple digits. Just my luck!!
Take a deep breath and calm yourself. Here’s a shot of morphine… feel a little better? So that crazy ex of yours is hanging outside your window with binoculars. From the 14 text messages an hour, 2AM pop-ins at your apartment, and that sudden spike in searches on the internet for your name, you’re tempted to quarantine yourself from society.